I recently had an interaction with someone whereby I discovered that being true to one’s word is an incredibly important factor in creating credibility for oneself. It also pays to choose your words wisely when making commitments, decisions and choices because these words we speak and the associated actions we pair with them are what show others who we are as people.
So, how can you be sure that your word is law? How do you keep your commitments and follow through with authenticity?
I’ve found that the best way to earn and maintain my credibility with others – and with myself – is to verbally commit or decommit to something. What this means is if I say to someone that I will do something by such and such a time, come hell or high water I will do just that. If I discover that something else takes priority over that commitment when the time comes, in order to honour my word it is important that I formally decommit from that event with the person in question.
In reading this it may appear that decommitting from something is going against one’s word. It isn’t. A decommitment is a way of overriding your first verbal agreement with a new one. It is much better and more professional to do this than to simply not honour your word and not fulfil the task, then apologise later. It is also much more courteous and truthful to front up to your commitments in this manner, as it shows you are organised, you are honouring the other person and their time, and you are honouring your own time and priorities too.
What do you need to commit to or decommit from? When have you lost faith in someone’s credibility because they didn’t honour their word? Share your experiences below >>
Meet People’s Expectations Whilst Keeping Your Cool
Have you ever been so laser focused on something that you’ve not paid any attention to
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what else is happening around you? Have you ever found it difficult to meet people’s expectations when things are getting out of control?
I was an event crew member at the most recent of the annual National Achievers Congress in Adelaide, Australia, last week where I was taught a most valuable lesson in how to meet people’s expectations in a moment of mayhem, whilst also remaining honest and showing great integrity.
“The best way to move a mountain is one stone at a time.Nothing is insurmountable if you take one step before you take the next.”
— Ed and Deb Shapiro
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Making Mountains Out of Molehills: How to Stop Procrastinating
We’ve all said it – “I’ll do it later/tomorrow/another day”. People love to put things off, but procrastinating can end up putting us in trouble and in a state of overwhelm when we’re then faced with a mountainous task that could have been dealt with easily, had we only made time to tackle it, piece by piece.
Whatever your task or daily routine is, here are our top 5 ways to stop procrastinating and just get the job done:
How do I become successful? Where do I start and what do I change?
“Make a beginning and all will come right. Intention brings attainment”
According to the quote above, all one need do is set the right intention and make a start, that is, ACT in order to fulfill that intention, and all will come right. So, if this is the case, why do so many people give up at the first sign of trouble? I put it down to one thing and one thing only:
It might be the silent terror that grips your chest or has those butterflies whirring around inside your belly, or it might be the gripping, stress-me-out kind that has you frozen in your tracks. Whatever fear does to you, the way you conquer it is going to be your saving grace. In my experience, people deal with fear in many ways but can only conquer it in two ways: either they ignore it and carry on, or they acknowledge it and use it to fuel their motivations to overcome. I choose the latter, personally, and that is mainly because I find it sooooo much more exhilarating.
A good number of my personal training clients have fears that restrict them from reaching their health and fitness goals Continue reading →
How to change your life by changing the quality of the questions you ask?
I was talking with a friend today. She was looking for ways to make a trip, even though she didn’t have any money. Instead of abandoning the whole idea as impossible, she was approaching it as a challenge believing that there is a perfect solution to every problem. So, she kept asking herself: “How can I make this happen? How can I pay for my trip?” and sure enough, she did find a solution to make her trip without having to pay money for it.
This conversation reminded me about a story told by Mary Manin Morrissey as a part of a coaching program I did a few years ago. It was about the quality of the questions we ask and how they determine the answers we find. You see, we always find the answers we look for, but trick is in asking the right questions. The bigger the question, the bigger the answer will be. The universe is equally capable of helping you find extra $200 to pay for your trip or extra $2000 to make the same trip flying business class!
This past weekend I was blessed enough to spend a couple of hours getting the inside scoop on challenging yourself and going beyond your comfort zone with seven-time Ironman world champion, Joanna Lawn.
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I asked Ms Lawn what it was that enticed her towards becoming a triathlete and she said that it was the fact that she was challenging herself – she hates the ocean swim segment of triathlons because she’s afraid of the ocean deep.
How about that, a world champion who has fears and flaws? Yes, they are real people too, it’s just that they continue to stretch beyond their comfort zone more readily than we do. Why is that? How is that done?
Lawn went onto say that she is always last to leave the water but makes sure she’s first to finish the biking and running segments. She has three chances to win and uses her strengths to her advantage, choosing not to focus on her weaknesses or the fears she feels when she steps into the water. Her comfort zone is in cycling and running, not in swimming, so every time she goes for another medal, she’s stretching herself beyond her comfort zone. And therefore keeps winning and winning and winning.
That’s what life is all about. Stretch, learn, grow, challenge, achieve, win. Feel the fear and do it anyway.
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”Sometimes we have to get really high to see how small we really are…”
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When Felix Baumgartner was finally standing on his stratospheric precipice some 128,000 feet away from solid ground, he took a breath, looked out over the earth, humbled himself and leapt to what could have been a gruesome death, but what became the victory of legends.
Seven years in the making, such a feat would be unimaginable by any average human being, however, for Baumgartner, Mister Daredevil himself, this was going to be his life’s main act. He prepared for years, ready to take the plunge and risk it all. Reaching beyond your comfort zone is not often fun at first, but the end results can be astounding.
I encourage you to watch the short video here, showing Felix’s perspective as he stepped out of his comfort zone and took a leap of faith. Continue reading →
I just watched the following TED Talk on the power of the old adage “fake it till you make it” when using body language as a means to change our perception of ourselves and set us up for success in life.
Well worth the watch as Amy uses humour and personal anecdotes to illustrate her points.
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Amy Cuddy: Your body language shapes who you are….
Body language affects how others see us, but it may also change how we see ourselves. Social psychologist Amy Cuddy shows how “power posing” — standing in a posture of confidence, even when we don’t feel confident — can affect testosterone and cortisol levels in the brain, and might even have an impact on our chances for success.
Amy Cuddy’s research on body language reveals that we can change other people’s perceptions — and even our own body chemistry — simply by changing body positions.